the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset
Last night when I was rolling with Sir Conan, he complimented me by saying that I had become more patient, and he meant specifically in my grappling, but it also made me think about how important patience is in Jiu-Jitsu in general. I wonder how many people have quit training simply because they weren’t patient enough to make it through some of the struggles and plateaus that most of us in BJJ experience. I’ve personally been through some tunnels in Jiu-Jitsu that were so dark I wasn’t sure if I would ever see the light again, but I’ve had the patience to persist, so I’ve always found my way out.
I think my patience during rolling that Conan was talking about is related to me becoming more confident in my own abilities, so instead of trying to force things, lately I’ve been more fluid in my decision making, and it’s not even a conscious thing, I believe it’s just a result of being more relaxed. I used to be so stressed when I rolled with CoCo, partly because I didn’t want to disappoint him (since he was my original Jiu-Jitsu teacher), but when I rolled with him last night, it was like he was just any other dude on any other day, except he let me ankle lock him (so what I am saying is, just be patient, and someday you’ll be able to submit your instructor! ;).
In a world of instant gratification, it’s not always easy to learn patience, but I don’t think you can last long in BJJ without it. I do still get impatient with myself at times, I get angry or upset that that I don’t learn things as fast as I want, or I can’t train as often as I’d like, but the fact is that delays, troubles, and suffering are inevitable in Jiu-Jitsu, so the only thing to do is accept them and keep moving on.
“It’s easier to find men who will volunteer to die,
than to find those who are willing to endure pain with patience.” -Julius Caesar