When people say “Jiu-Jitsu is for everyone”, I understand the sentiment, but I can’t help but feel as though it’s not accurate. After spending the last five years watching countless numbers of people try Jiu-Jitsu for awhile and then quit, I really don’t think it’s for everyone, because it clearly wasn’t for them.
I believe a better way to put it is “Jiu-Jitsu is for anyone“. It’s possible for anyone to do it, regardless of age, size, strength, gender, or physical ability. You only have to train as hard as you want, or are able to.
There have been many people I’ve trained with who I thought would never quit, but they did, and a couple of others who I didn’t think would stay, but they have, so I can’t tell if Jiu-Jitsu is for someone or not, and no one can really know if it’s for them unless they try it. Most people probably thought I wouldn’t last as long as I have, and before I started training, I would’ve agreed.
The only reason I even tried Jiu-Jitsu was because I wanted to learn some ground defense to supplement my Karate, and I didn’t think I was going to like it. From the outside looking in, I thought it really wasn’t for me, but once I stepped on the mat, I never left (instead, I stopped training Karate). If I hadn’t started doing something which I thought I was going to hate (but felt like I needed for self-defense), I would’ve never discovered my love of grappling, and I wouldn’t have even known what I was missing!
Jiu-Jitsu doesn’t care if you’re imperfect, it doesn’t mind if you’re a slow learner, or if you can’t do things as well as others, it rewards us all the same. Not everyone who tries it is going to like it, but you can’t truly know until you do it, so I wish more people (especially women) would give it a chance. It’s not easy, but as the saying goes “If it was easy, then everyone would do it.” Everyone won’t do it, but anyone can. You just have to try.