There was a moment in the beginner BJJ class on Thursday when I was top-mounted on a no-stripe white belt, who outweighed me by at least sixty pounds, and as he was thrashing around, trying to throw me off of him with all of his might, I felt a strange sense of calm come over me. I knew he wasn’t going to escape, no matter how hard he tried, so I just had to go with the flow, and ride it out.
I think that was probably the most relaxed I’ve been while grappling, and I’ve seen that same zen-like state in some of the other advanced students when they’re rolling. That kind of thing doesn’t happen to me very often, where I feel like I’m really in control and “I got this!”, not even when I’m in the beginner class.
Sometimes it’s just nice to go to BJJ class and not get submitted (which regularly happens multiple times in the advanced class). Even though I didn’t tap out that big white belt who I had mounted on Thursday, he certainly didn’t stand a chance of submitting me! One of my happiest moments in BJJ recently was during the beginner class a couple of weeks ago, when a man, who is a white belt in BJJ but who has extensive knowledge in choking, tried with everything he had to choke me, but he couldn’t do it.
I think if I could always stay more calm like I was on Thursday, it would make a big difference for me when I’m grappling, with both the beginner and advanced students. I still may not be dominating people most of the time, but I think I’m getting harder to submit! I’m on this Jiu-Jitsu journey for life, no matter how many ups and downs, or twists and turns it takes, so I should just remember to relax, and enjoy the ride.