Yesterday was mine and Joe’s wedding anniversary, and one of the ways we celebrated was by going to Jiu-Jitsu class together, just like any other Sunday, but I told Amy we had to work on something “fun”, so that I wouldn’t get mad at Joe on our anniversary (Joe said it would be more appropriate if I did ;). Amy knows my game pretty well, so she interpreted “fun” to mean “guard grappling drills”. Joe still dominated most of class, but it was kind of enjoyable when he tried to put submissions on me backwards, or tried to armbar the wrong arm, because I used to do that all the time!
It was also funny when I got all set up for a sweep, then instead of just trying to sweep him, I stopped and said “De La Riva”, so that he would know what the position was! After I lost the momentum, I couldn’t even sweep him with Ken’s help. I mean that Ken tried to coach me, not that he physically tried to help me sweep Joe, or else it definitely would have worked!
I almost regret dragging Joe with me to the no gi class last week, because I think he remembered all of the butterfly guard stuff we worked on, and then he used it against me yesterday, even though he had never even learned anything about butterfly before! However, there is an upside, because every time he figures out a new technique, I have to keep stepping up my game. Nothing motivates you to improve more than having someone kick your ass, especially when you have to go home with them afterward!
Joe and I have been together for twenty-two years, and married for eighteen. I think the secret to marriage is the same as the secret to Jiu-Jitsu…that there is no “secret”. You just have to commit to it, keep working on it, and don’t quit…but it’s not even worth doing if you’re not having fun.