I once overheard a conversation between two people on the mat, and the first person was trying to help the second person figure out what to do. The second person became frustrated and said “Just tell me what to do, and I’ll do it!”, to which the first person replied “If I tell you, you won’t learn as much.”
I can certainly sympathize with the second person. I think many of us feel that way, especially in the beginning of our training. “Just tell me how to be good at Jiu-Jitsu and I will do it!” I’ve asked my teachers questions that they didn’t respond to, not because they didn’t know the answer, but because they understand that telling me isn’t always as effective as when I figure it out for myself.
That reminds me of a time in Karate class when a student asked why you would kick a person in the shin, so the Sensei went over to him and kicked him in the shin. He didn’t have any more questions after that.
It would be nice if we could find simple answers to all our Jiu-Jitsu questions, and have someone tell us what to do each step along the way, but unfortunately that’s not how it works. There are lessons that can only be learned through trial and error, time and practice. Sometimes you just have to do the research yourself.