I am the eldest of three sisters. The baby, Brandi, is nine years younger, and the neglected middle child, Lori, is younger by two years. Although she is younger than I am, Lori was born more mature, and with a much more out-going personality. When we were kids, stores used to give out candy if you went up to the counter. I was way too shy to ask for my own candy, so when Lori got hers she would always ask if she could have another piece for her big sister. Well actually, she had a speech impediment when she was little, and she had trouble saying “r’s”, so she would ask for candy for her “seestwo”. That is still what us girls affectionately call each other.
Since Lori and I are so close in age, when we were growing up we usually went to the same school, and our parents were very adamant about us maintaining good grades. Getting a C on a report card was not acceptable, because “C is average, and you are better than average”. Although Lori is very smart, book-learning is something which did not come easily for her back then, like it did for me. I have a good ability to memorize the written word, so in school I was usually able to maintain A’s without even trying. I never studied, and I rarely did homework outside of class. Lori, on the other hand, had to work her butt off for the good grades she got. I know there were times when she was frustrated by this. She could see that I was goofing off and not even applying myself, yet I was still doing as well she did when she had to really work for it.
Thanks to Jiu-Jitsu, I think I finally understand how she felt. Sometimes it seems like I have to work twice as hard just to be half as good as everyone else. Especially those people who it appears to come naturally to. It’s like they don’t even have to try, and they’re still better than me. I feel as though I’m constantly struggling, and I’m barely getting by.
I’ve heard that when things always come easily for someone, they often quit when the going gets tough, because they haven’t learned how to work hard and persevere. Some gifted students who sail through high school fail out of college because it’s not so easy anymore, while the people who continually have to put in work to succeed are the ones who learn the skills necessary to keep going, and often rise to the top. My sister Lori is now a Vice President at Union Bank & Trust Company. I believe that the skills she learned while struggling through school is what allowed her to achieve the enormous success she now has. She’s worked really hard to get where she is, and she deserves every bit of it.
I just hope that the same holds true for me in Jiu-Jitsu. I hope that if I keep working hard and studying that eventually I can be as good as, or even better than, the people who are born with natural ability. My sister didn’t waste time complaining that it wasn’t fair because she had to work harder than me in school, she just did it.
Lori and I did fight a bit when we were growing up, and my dad even threatened to buy us boxing gloves and let us go at it (which I was all for!). Lori would probably tell you that I tormented her on the regular (as well as a story about me stabbing her with a fork, which I can neither confirm nor deny), but she should also tell you about all the times when I had her back, and how I would chase down and beat up other kids who were picking on her. I love my little seestwos, and I am the only one allowed to mess with them! Nosparc clan rules!
|I wouldn’t sit on Santa’s lap without Lori.|