If I had a dollar for every time someone in the dojo told me I needed to relax, I would have enough money to open my own school and teach Ginger-Jits-Do. Our main tenet would be “NEVER RELAX! ALWAYS ATTACK AND GO FAST!” Our classes would only be a half-hour long. We would probably shut down in a month due to excessive injuries.
My husband once found a sign that said “Relax” and bought it for the dojo. After he hung it up, I observed “It’s crooked”. Shihan laughed and said “Relax!” They hung it that way on purpose. In the dojo, even relax is relaxed.
I understand the importance of relaxation. I know that being relaxed makes every aspect of training better. You’re heavier when you are pinning, it’s more difficult to throw you, you move better, and your strikes are harder when you are relaxed. Not to mention that you don’t tire out nearly as easily. I totally understand the concept.
So I know I need to relax more, everyone has been telling me that since the dawn of time! The problem is, I’m not sure I know how to do it. My mind has a mind of it’s own. That’s why I can’t sleep half the time, and why I have difficulty with meditation. I can’t even relax when I have absolutely no reason not to, and yet you people want me to relax when I’m fighting?! Ha.