Yesterday I grappled with someone I’d never rolled with before, and afterward he must have told me about six times “you are really strong!” I know he was being complimentary, but I couldn’t help but feel like he was leaving off the words “for a chick”. I’m not good with compliments.
What actually bothered me about it was that after I grapple with someone, I would prefer them to say things like “you move really well.”, or “you’re very technical”. My strength should not be the thing they notice. That just means I am still trying to muscle things too much, and despite what he might have thought, I’m not really that strong. He was attempting to wrist lock me, and I spent half of our roll trying to pry his hands off with my one free hand, which was not working at all. Then Ray stopped by and told me to figure out how I could use leverage instead, so I under hooked one of his arms and easily broke his grip, no strength necessary. Without Ray’s input, I would have probably just kept futilely trying to pry his hands off, and ended up tapping out.
So, it seems as though my grappling is still somewhere between a rock and a hard place. The only form of water I am like is a block of ice. I might seem strong at first, but I am easily crushed.