You’re not the boss of me!

Someone recentYou're not the boss of me!ly came to my blog by searching “stop competing, you’re a loser”. Now, I don’t think they were personally talking to me, although it’s possible because I am, in fact, a loser. So in case they were, I would just like to respond “Don’t try to tell me what to do!”

What I am wondering is, if all the losers stopped competing, who would the winners have to beat? They can’t do it without us. The losers are a vital part of any competition…there has to be one in every single match. If everyone who ever lost stopped competing, it wouldn’t be long before there was one lonely person out there, trying to beat themselves.

So, let’s have some appreciation for the losers who don’t quit. Let’s give some respect to the people who keep trying and failing, who pick themselves up and don’t give up. It’s easy to go out and compete again victory after victory, true courage and strength lies in coming back from defeat. If you’re only “in it to win it”, then perhaps you should stop competing if you’re a loser. Otherwise, remember that a loss or a win are both equally valuable to your training and growth.

I guess the person who thinks losers should stop competing also believes that it’s not possible for them to ever win, and that winning is all that matters. They are wrong on both counts. If I cared that much what other people think, I probably would stop competing, but I don’t. I don’t do it for them. I compete to improve myself, and that happens every single time…whether I win or not.

“Boom, crush. Night, losers. Winning, duh.” -Charlie Sheen


2 comments on “You’re not the boss of me!

  1. Personally, I take issue with labelling in general. There are few people that I would want to label a "loser" (and most of those for reasons that have nothing to do with BJJ competitions). Every match needs SOMEONE WHO HAS LOST (*that* time). It may seem picky semantics, but I find it a very large distinction.

  2. When I call myself a loser it's more tongue-in-cheek, because I don't really consider myself to be one :) I agree with you about labels, and I try to never see anything in such black and white terms.

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