Pay it Forward

There was only one girl competing in the tournament today, so she fought a boy in both of her matches, and he submitted her both times. After the first loss she cried a little. After the second, she started bawling. My heart ached for her, so I had to go talk to her when she walked off the mat. I told her that she did a good job, and she shouldn’t be sad. I told her she was very brave to even compete. I told her that I lost, too, but we should both be happy because it would help us learn. She was still sad, but I think it helped her a little.

It helped me a little, too. I had two matches, and I lost both of them…but I did a good job, and I’ve already learned from it. Most of all, I know there are more than just three women between here and Kansas City who grapple, but that is all that showed up at this tournament. Sara and Emily may have submitted me, but at least I was willing to put myself on the line. If I don’t go out there and represent women in Jiu-Jitsu in the Midwest, who will? Who will be the one to tell that little girl “I know how you feel, because I’ve been there.”

(Btw, I have watched my videos. I did pretty well against Sara, and my match with Emily is quite amusing. I will post them eventually, but right now I am too tired :)


2 comments on “Pay it Forward

  1. Sorry to hear you didn't win, but it sounds like you aquitted yourself honorably and got something of value out of it. It was good of you to encourage that girl. It's true- we need to show up and represent. It's our responsibility to that girl, and other girls and women who might never try BJJ if we fail to set an example. That's the main reason I'm competing myself.Wanna see the vids!

  2. Thank you, Kitsune. I really want to encourage and inspire as many females to the art/sport as there are males. Even if that means I have to do it by losing ;)

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